Ya know what I’m learning in this underground season of Motherhood? The season that’s so often unseen by others? The season that’s all things toddlers and little boys and bruised knees and time outs and everything in between?
I’m learning this.
That it’s really, really hard.
Parenting is the most incredible, most rewarding, most cherished season of my life thus far and any mama out there would be sure to agree and say the same about their own, but that doesn’t negate the fact that this season is still so very trying. It’s a season that challenges you in ways you never thought possible. A season that stretches your patience and forces growth to occur in that attitude of yours. It’s a hard and humbling season that’s for sure.
But do you know what makes it ten times harder?
It’s when you know that you’re giving this parenting thing your 110% percent and yet, you still feel the sting of the eye rolls from others who don’t think you’re doing it right. It’s when you’re out at the grocery store and someone stops to make some kind of “don’t you know how kids are made?” comment as they glance over all four of my beautiful miracles. It’s when other mama’s extend judgement and harsh words instead of grace and compassion.
Parenting is hard and judgement is real.
Mama’s, it’s out there. It’s everywhere you turn, even sometimes coming from the ones you love the most. So many mean well when they try to correct or let you know how they would do things, but the bottom line is this: You’ve got to parent the way that God has called YOU to parent. You’ve got to pursue Him as you pursue them and let the rest go. How you choose to handle your sweet babies is between you and Jesus. How you choose to give your kids what they need is a beautiful calling and opportunity that no one else will get. It’s YOUR job, it’s YOUR calling, it’s YOUR purpose…not anyone else’s…to raise your little’s up to be the kind of people who make a difference in the world.
So, when you’re out and about, when you’re doing your amazing parenting thing, when you begin to sense those darn eye rolls (majority of the time from people who don’t even have kids…bless ’em Lord), when someone feels the need to throw their two cents into your life about how they would do things versus how you’ve chosen to do them…just remember this:
Be easy on yourself Mama. You continue to press into the Lord. You continue to ask for wisdom and guidance and discernment as you lead your little sheep. You continue to make decisions that are healthy and right and pure for them…and honey, you let go of the rest.
Because parenting is hard and judgement is real.
Be easy on yourself mama. You’re doing an amazing job.